What would you do if you couldn’t lose?
I hear that line thrown out by many motivational speakers as they try to “fire” people up to achieve greatness. As I hear it, it never settles well with me. It is a comment that is so far from reality, I can’t believe that people don’t press them further.
Why is that, you may ask?
We now live in a world where we are teaching people how to deal with success…but we don’t teach people about failure. This is a problem that has multiple issues.
Without being able to navigate failure, we will never be able to push towards our full potential.
Each “setback” which we encounter teaches us something. If you look at the most accomplished people, we admire what they have. We admire their possessions, their status, and the lives that they lead. We never get a chance to admire the process that occurred to get them to their current place. There were setbacks, roadblocks, places where they could have quit. The part where they could have quit is what separates them. They had built the resolve, determination, and “grit” required to persevere in their given field. Were they guaranteed victory? No. Did they stop because it was going to be hard? No.
Without the bitterness of failure, we would have no real sense of success in our accomplishments.
If we go through life with no adversity, we do not grow. We do not experience the lows of failure to appreciate the true feeling of success. You hear people say that individuals become numb and cold when they experience too much adversity. That is true if you have not been conditioned to deal with it. I feel that we can get more complacent and numb if we never venture out to experience failure.
“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”
― Randy Pausch,